Today has been a good day of relaxing and enjoying the winter weather - FINALLY! We watched Horton Hears a Who, and I surprisingly enjoyed it! Tonight we're off to a Christmas program and to see a live nativity. It's good for the kids to remember what Christmas is all about even though they have been eyeing the presents under the tree for days wishing they could crack into them.
Sophia had a rough morning. In keeping this blog real, I don't mind sharing that she woke up crying. It took me quite a while to console her. Truly, it just made me realize that kids are people too. It is not like I didn't know this before, but sometimes adults can forget the impact that we have on their little lives. Even when they can be smiling from ear to ear and telling you everything is okay, I would imagine that late into the night or during quiet moments they have little hopes and dreams and longings that we know nothing about.
The first night we were in Idaho, Zack looked very sad and suddenly began to hit himself in the face. This was an old behavior that he used to struggle with when he was frustrated. He would be angry with himself. I was shocked by it so took him to the other room to ask him what was wrong. He began to weep uncontrollably. I asked him to use his words and after a while he told me what he was feeling. I held long and tight and let him know that I will never leave him. I was surprised at the insecurity that popped up, but again it made me realize that kids can seem perfectly fine, but they have a lot going on in their hearts and minds.
As Dr. Seuss would say, "a person is a person no matter how small".
Zack has been having some tummy problems so I have him on a lactose free diet for five days to determine if lactose is what is affecting him. Next step will be eleminating gluten (what a pain). Any gluten free moms out there with advice?
2 comments:
We are experiecing a bit of the same, crying, frustration, irritability and wanting to stay home. We are going through a house remodeling and living in the motor home = change. At the same time Christmas is too much right now for her and the other day after crying she told me she was affraid Santa will not come. :-( you are right all we can do is listen, be there for them and tell them we love them and that we are by their side to help them cope. I have also heard that it can be related to old memories and perhaps the change to winter makes them a bit uncomfortable ... after all previous winters were long for this little ones. I think I believe more in the change and Xmas excitement bringing stress like it does in adults, they just have a different way of expressing it. The good thing is that they bounce right back after a little R&R.
hi i have been reading you blog for a long time and have a nearly 2 year old son we adopted from russia back in feb this year, was interesting to read what you said about Zach hitting himself in the face when he used to be upset or frustrated as that is what our son does alot if something upsets him or he is frustrated of annoyed he smacks himself in the face which is so hard to see him he do
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